Hey 👋🏽,

Have you ever:

Woken up 3 hours before your alarm
Spilled your coffee into your freezer
Broken your phone screen
Had a neighbor politely tap on your window inform you that you have a flat tire while you’re lip-syncing along to the Backstreet Boys for no particular reason in your parking lot

and thought

it’s going to be a great day!!!!

Probably not. Murphy’s Law leads to the conclusion:

it’s going to be a sh*tty [day, week, month] 😐

which becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

Ironically, it’s easier to falsely conclude that the universe is conspiring against us than to see and accept bad stuff as the negative outcomes of our own consecutive bad decisions.

Steps 1-4 scream slow down, Haley.

We choose to invent or ignore the writing on the wall. When we zoom out to observe ourselves, we begin to see the lack or presence of patterns in situational forces and our own behavior.

With perspective we can let go of consecutive bad moments and own questionable decisions. We can start again…at any moment. (I am 😅)

Here are a few things I enjoyed this week:

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🧠 a big little idea called legibility Ribbon Farm, 11m

I recently read an article about AI redesigns of human solutions. The redesigns were more complex, asymmetrical and functional than the originals. Humans tend to oversimplify in favor of structure and form:

The big mistake in this pattern of failure is projecting your subjective lack of comprehension onto the object you are looking at, as “irrationality.” We make this mistake because we are tempted by a desire for legibility.

❤️ some things they teach you Start Again Today, 6m

Paul Graham recently wrote about having kids: how they expand your curiosity, bore you with repetition, quiet your ambition and help you find peace. I wrote this after a particularly trying week long stint with my 4.5yo; a peek inside (single) toddler parenting.

🚶🏽‍♀️wellness that works Outside, 8m

We’ve reached peak wellness, but most of it is nonsense. Brad Stulberg explores the physical, emotional, social, cognitive, spiritual and environmental myths of wellness, and offers alternatives.

I see you, I love you, let’s have a great week.

P.S. on my website this week: don’t do what your [customer, boss] tells you to do, 3m

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